Cafe Chats : Sensuality en Modernity, Wicked & Perhaps talk Sex, Sugar, Magic.

Cafe Chats : Sensuality en Modernity, Wicked & Perhaps talk Sex, Sugar, Magic.

by A. Wicked & Introducing Uncle Perhaps, the Mad Poet from Down Under.

It was sometime on a lazy Sunday morning, Auntie Wicked and Uncle Perhaps sat deep in conversation sipping coffee in a café designed in the tasteful art deco style. Soon enough the conversation took a turn for the taboo as the topic of sensuality rose it’s decadent and indefinable head. Why is this topic and lifestyle considered so wrong and terrifying to everyone who has yet to engage in its feather light touch, awakening with a fury the desire’s long locked within our psyche? As the sailboats rolled and swayed down the sea just outside the window, and the scent of tropical plants filled the air, we began penning down the conversation. And without further adieu your Auntie A. Wicked and newly initiated Uncle Perhaps fearlessly embark on the titillating topic of Sensuality.Uncle Perhaps : I have a lot of thoughts about this, mostly pornographic…A. Wicked : Welcome Uncle, it is so refreshing to have you here! LOL We will start with porn and go from there…Uncle Perhaps : <porn> its like, sensuality within the theatre of see. I also want to go ahead and make a vote that Oscar Wilde should be known as the patron saint of sensuality – at least outward sensuality – the aesthete (see also : The Aesthetic Movement)

Oscar Wilde, Patron Saint

aes·thete or es·thete

n.

1. One who cultivates an unusually high sensitivity to beauty, as in art or nature.

2. One whose pursuit and admiration of beauty is regarded as excessive or affected.

A. Wicked : Mmm, I’ll give you outward sensuality. Although in being a Victorian Gay, Sensuality was a necessity, evading the outwardly sexual, infused with romantic subterfuge considering the desert of sensuality that was the outward world of the Victorians.Uncle Perhaps : Hey you remember the book(it was most likely this book that Oscar Wilde had in mind) that was given to Dorian Gray that basically started him being corrupt?A. Wicked : No I don’t.Uncle Perhaps : Well in the book, after he spoke to Henry he was given a book that kinda started him being all sensualist and corrupt , it was a À rebours by Joris-Karl Huysmans, also known sin “Against Nature”.A. Wicked : Sensualism is against nature. That could be very interesting.Uncle Perhaps : Well, it’s not that it’s against nature…A. Wicked : Don’t you think it’s usually portrayed like that?Uncle Perhaps: … It was the way that the main character lived was in a built up sensualist prison-house.A. Wicked : I mean, the very reason sensualist are seen possibly as uhhhh evil. because to draw out pleasure is a corrupting factor?Uncle Perhaps: I can see that but under who’s gaze is corruption weighed?A. Wicked : Society! Like how in Dorian we are guided to moral outcomes.Uncle Perhaps : How so?A. Wicked : As though sensuality is a gateway drug to heavier corruptions…Uncle Perhaps : lol ‘come on man, smoke some of this sensuality….justrub the velvet man. it’ll be cool.’ BANG next thing you know you’reusing kids as drug mules

The Picture of Dorian Gray via http://www.plutenko.ru

A. Wicked : …and Dorian Grey is totally a twisted morality tale…Uncle Perhaps : So you think that the inevitability of Dorian becoming corrupt was due to his sensual path?A. Wicked : No, not me personally but I think that’s the way it is presented. He is corrupted by sensuality, and it opens him up to the point where he is indifferent to other corruptions, being called over the cliff by Satan with a flute; Or its even a good parable about how discovery about one’s identity coming fourth and living an increasingly debauched life can change a moral compass irrevocably.Uncle Perhaps : Well, Henry Wotton is today considered to be Satan by many factors, including that he’s called Harry by many of the characters as a nickname, and that Harry was another name for Satan in the 19th Century.A. Wicked : See? this is typical how Victorian (and in turn OUR) society sees the corruptive path to go?Uncle Perhaps : So do you agree with the current moral compass’ direction away from sensuality?A. Wicked : Oh yes. The moral compass understands us better than we dosometimes… because there is a certain power in sensuality that corrupts or even makes people feel as though they are being corrupted.Uncle Perhaps : It’s quite powerful, I’ll give it that… but it depends how you look at it.A. Wicked : Brushing your hands on a velvet jacket, or listening to satiny words. The single-minded enjoyment of a taste or a moment. These are but a few of the things we get wrong when sensuality goes by the wayside. As to Sensualists? We are to be seen as Devils though we see no off morality to our lives.

 À rebours face plate via http://pmokeefe.blogspot.com/

Uncle Perhaps : It seems so simple… there is really only the now, which is a moment trapped in a series of moments, why not make it beautiful? Do you mean we don’t believe in evil?A. Wicked : TYPICAL answer of the Sensual DEVIL!Uncle Perhaps : …and you expected anything less from me?A. Wicked : But think! Of the people who you have allowed to share your life from time to time. For instance a story I told today of a young closeted gay man who lived and breathed the air of a Sensualist 24/7 for a few months. He seemed normal and it was too much the relief of the outside world that she’d convinced him to be straight. Then one day he digs in her closet and puts on makeup and they dye his hair blond the next thing you know he’s trying to fuck boys in front of her under the false assumption it pleases her and goes off the deep end ends up with a drag queen, (which I don’t fault him for) then CHAKAHHH! he gets her fired from her day job and goes back to being a country boy in the closet… Because it was too much for him to handle.This is just ONE of the examples of how most people cannot cope with sensuality, or how for many it’s not something that is less than an entry drug. breathing the fumes of opium smoke and succumbing only for a moment because most people seem to feel the need to live in ways that do not make them feel.Uncle Perhaps : Isn’t that just an illusion? We as humans feel by nature, we’re emotional beings, we have 5 senses and they’re in constant deploy to become unfeeling is to go against nature.A. Wicked : Well I feel it’s an illusion in the sense that society is an illusion.Uncle Perhaps : I think a degree of sensuality is necessary…A. Wicked : …But lets face it, sensualists tend to be a sub-cultural shaman of the senses. Not meant to live on the inside with the other hoo-mans, but rather to live on the edges reminding them of the offerings. And in this way you can say that by saying that their society is an illusion, you are trying to apply your lack of sense of society and morality on others.

Dionysus via http://www.mythencyclopedia.com/Cr-Dr/Dionysus.html

Uncle Perhaps : Not necessarily, they can keep their illusion as much as I can keep mine, its like two different magicians performing to one crowd. We are Dionysus come to show them Elysium.A. Wicked : That’s true but you have to remember very much that OUR seeming lack of morality doesn’t apply to normal society.Uncle Perhaps : Of course it does, just not in the way that they see it…A. Wicked : Particularly in times where we (as a society) shout to the rafters we are nothing like the Victorians, yet grow more like them everyday.Uncle Perhaps  : Oh God Yes!A. Wicked : I wouldn’t be shocked if we outlawed sensuality entirely because sensuality gives a sinful intimation that there has been pleasure in this life. We feel that pleasure…that inherent moment we have when we are kids and realize that pleasure is connected with touch but it is immediately squooshed and made to be something dirty.Do you think the dirtiness and sinfulness is what makes it difficult for Society at large to deal with Sensualists?Uncle Perhaps: I think, more than anything, they’re afraid. They keep getting bombarded with certain ‘truths’ about reality, life, society etc by the same society and anything that exists beyond…has to be seen as ‘Evil’ due to the fact that we’re living in a Judeo-Christian society and have been for 2 thousand years.Though the original idea has been corrupted and the charlatans allowed to wander the streetand then the so-called ‘revolution’ came, we’re still deeply carved with a few tenements that remain from the Dark Ages But in saying that, without the Dark Ages we would never have the Renaissance or ‘Enlightenment’. If all people were sensualists, the villains would be played by a new race of the morally corrupt who go to work, live boring lives, and don’t enjoy sex but I guess that will only happen in a perfect world A. Wicked : That’s a lot of morality, and its relevant to truth-seeking to a certain degreebut how much does Mental-Enlightenment have to do with being a sensualist?Uncle Perhaps: Nothing it’s just a metaphor.A. Wicked : Sensualism is in itself an earthly pleasure and in theory, truth-seeking and enlightenment can come without the fleshly pleasures.Uncle Perhaps : You can’t have sensualist without the anti-sensualists just as you can’t have the dark ages without the light.

Crowley via http://freemasonry.bcy.ca/texts/AleisterCrowley.html

A. Wicked : Can you not tho? I mean that would depend solely on people seeking to be sensualists, and as we know from some of the more Crowley-esq pursuits of teh Victorian era, sensual-enlightenment becomes quickly a Sexualist thing heavy on the Kink. I think most people don’t realize the concept of being a Sensualist in itself is separate from sex although it sometimes leads to or involves it.Uncle Perhaps : Well if everyone was born a complete sensualist, completely into it and it was considered as normal as is breathing, then society would have something else to villainize in degree of morality.A. Wicked : I’m just saying in itself pursing sensualism as a form of enlightenment it becomes easily SEXUALISED by people because they pursue it as a sexual thing. So it leads to bondage-thrill, and that by nature is entirely separate from Sensuality as an art and inborn habit.Uncle Perhaps : It does, what other sole activity have we upon this earth that combines all senses within such a joyous dance? Who breaths perfume and casts music, whilst delighting in chords written upon flesh and the most exotic tastes to have? Which kind of brings me back to early Pagan beliefs where sex was often viewed as Mystical.A. Wicked : And that follows up to what sensualism too you. Do you think that the concept of Sensuality is inherently Paganistic in nature?Uncle Perhaps : I don’t see why not. I think that we learn about sensuality before we learn about other things growing up, we learn what’s pretty and what’s nice to touch and what feels nice. If we looked at it in a worldview light.. then yeah its definitely Pagan. I would say most ancient cultures saw it as amazing and mystical, they gave it gods. nowadays it’s almost reviled.A. Wicked : So the idea of sensuality is a kind of sheer enjoyment of that which feels nice or pleasurable and indulging in it?Uncle Perhaps : Not just that, no, that’s Hedonism… which i think sensuality can easily become.A. Wicked : But again isn’t hedonism the active pursuance of excess in its own way? to me it intimates silently that you endeavor to go beyond enjoyment and overdo everything? And sensuality in itself has to do with pausing at the crest of excess, and stop doing something when it’s beyond pleasure?Uncle Perhaps : Well, once you do something that feels good, you do it again till it gets old, then you need either something harder or a break from it…A. Wicked : See I’ve never been a monkey with a button type. I know precisely when something has crossed the line between pleasurable and boring.Uncle Perhaps : To me sensuality is more of a connection between the mind&emotion of a person and the way it reacts to the senses. you don’t need to go all the way to orgasm, , all the time, sometimes foreplay is nice just for that reason… you need wine and cheese and jesters standing over a trap door m’dear.

via http://tinyurl.com/geeksugarpoke

A. Wicked : But isn’t sensuality in itself something more abstract? It’s not like licking clits or poking parts just for the sake of it, its more something like the smooth skin of a belly to be rubbed for the sake of the feeling against your skin or the hint of the scent of hair or even a bite of some mousse… and its that trapped moment in itself that is sensual.Uncle Perhaps : When life throws you a curve ball painted by Michelangelo, and you can lose yourself catching it?A. Wicked : Yes. and that’s the sensualists largest problem with the outside world is that sensuality is told like an opium den and kink and fucking… like your den is somehow constantly full of naked orgies, when in fact sensualists are more prone to beauty and moments like the cool touch of marble or the way a breeze feels.Uncle Perhaps : The other day I sat in an art deco revival café by the beach with morning sun filtering down through the blinds made of twigs as i sipped a cup of black coffee. I did that for an hour.A. Wicked : Exactly.Uncle Perhaps : That is sensuality… living for that moment BUT I think there are other kinds not just single moments.A. Wicked : I never was able to make much of a distinction. When someone asks me what turns me on it was this laundry list that freaked them out.|After a night’s  Wicked and Perhaps were back to mulling over the ins and outs of sensual sensuality-ness|A. Wicked : So last night, we where talking about our sensuality thing…Uncle Perhaps : Oh yes, sensuality what makes us tick….A. Wicked : I mean do you think in theory that its touch and the enjoyment of the rituals that makes it sensual? or maybe more like What makes YOU feel its sensuality vs sex?Uncle Perhaps : That’s a hard one to explain…A. Wicked : Well for me, what is not sensual is easy to explain. Not sensual is if someone skips to the naughty bits like just goes right to sex…like tweakin’ nipples or shoving fingers places or probing things roughly. It doesn’t really uh? Do that much for me? One can’t simply skip to the ritual of the old in-and-out. As a man is there a ritual like that on your end? Like make out – nipples clitoris – humphump?Uncle Perhaps : As a sensualist I can say there is a ritual…A. Wicked : A ritual of your own?

Julek Martwy via http://juliuszmartwy.blogspot.com/

Uncle Perhaps : There is definitely a ritual, I love devouring a person before and as I fuck them… their very taste, touch and smell.A. Wicked : OK lets see. What I’m saying is what divides you from sexualists? Because EVERY tweaks nobs and pokes and rub. Because to me sexualists are like:Goal Oriented Foreplay.Straight to the point.The fucking as much and as many times as possible, without any particular attention (or care) to the what why when how?Fetishists even tend to be sexualists cause it’s about more exciting sex. The though there is “Stimulate the fucking” and ” yahhh make it more exciting.” When to me, as a sensualist, a feeling of lots of pleasure can come from non-to-the-point things?Uncle Perhaps : Oh no I agree! I mean, the difference is that even though we all do the same things, tweak nobs, lick clits, bite nipples etc, I think a sensualist can at that point of his or her sensual experience take it differently. Not to say that i don’t enjoy things that aren’t directly to the point. There are some degree’s of the human form that simply running eyes or hand over can give me the same sensation: the small of someones back, the V shape before the pubis…A. Wicked : Well isn’t that the point? To a sensualist, can easily happen that a kiss or a lick to some non-typical foreplay point can be just as arousing? Wrist or back of the knee replaces NOBS easily and without a second thought. However I’m talking about something subtle, like I can’t stand SLOBBER or overt Porno Tonguing?Uncle Perhaps : There has to be some degree of elegance.A. Wicked : Exactly! So Sensuality or Sensualism comes down to a type person who isn’t strictly turned on in the normal ritual of foreplay. The Sensualist defs can’t tolerate slobbering or pushy fucking…Uncle Perhaps : Of course not! but then again we cant exactly say no to a rough random fuck in an alleyway…A. Wicked : Well that’s what makes Sensualism not really a fetish? It doesn’t Always have to be one particular way to make sex exiting. I think its a different degree of sensuality in your alley situation…Uncle Perhaps : Exactly, as a Sensualist I’d get really bored if all I did was get the same incense filled, candlelit, silk sheet swaddled romp within candlelight every night … that’d get annoying, But in saying that, pleasure with a rough random fuck in an alleyway somewhere is a degree of our senses being played with. I look at the senses and the body as almost an instrument; you can play classical music on it, or you could play rock depends on what the mood calls for.

Le Violon d’Ingres – Man Ray, 1924

A. Wicked : Exactly but wouldn’t it be like the same as a fetish or OCD fucking if it had to be the same every time? I’m just saying with a sensualist sexual stimulation can come as readily from caress as it could from a knob wiggle…Uncle Perhaps : I’ve always seen sex as being like playing on an instrument.A. Wicked : Oh? Explain?Uncle Perhaps : With music, different notes and tones create different emotions and sensations in the listener; the same can be said in regard to sex and sensuality except that you are playing the audience as instrument play it rough or soft, the bites, scratches, licks, rubs, caresses, touches, tastes are all different tones.A. Wicked : It is like a dance but with tongues and lips and teeth. Or like a proper high tea where you can’t always wear a t-shirt unless you are feeling super punk rock. Sensuality tastes a different flavor on every day. Sensuality is drinking up a heated debate or elegant poetry.Uncle Perhaps : Speaking of, I don’ have a poetry today but do you want to hear the lyrics o the new song?A. Wicked : Sensualize me!Uncle Perhaps :

You were standing neath the arms of the old oak tree.

Skin pale as milk, hair alive as fire.

You spoke softly ‘how long will it be

to learn of a love. That will not tire?”

Sapphires rose to catch the sky as I took you by the hand.

Take this path by eastern star, tread across the land.

Find the one. The beggars son.

Hush now dear

hush now my love

slip on your fear

wear it like a glove.

your eyes are rivers

your veins are seas

why do you hold to dreams as these?

On camel back through ancient hill;

Crete, Thebes, Thessaly

All the dead turned away

at the golden sight of thee.

The vagabond along the way

held out his rotting palm

traded you a jewel for the price of a psalm.

And you went away….

far away.

To the land beyond the edge of a map, you found yourself alone.

Broken lost wanderer with skin against your bones.

Before you stood the beggars son, horns hidden by his mane. Alive as fire.

He asked no questions, he queried no reason

he already knew your name.

Leading with his crimson palm he took you by the hand,

and saw the past in those sapphires that held the broken land.

Then with a buried and lowered singsong voice he spoke without a tear…hush…hush

“hush now dear,

hush now my love.

slip off your fear

now free as a dove.

your eyes were rivers

your veins were seas

why have you departed

the dreams as these?’

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And that my dearies is just a taste of the wide world of sensuality and an invitation to partake in the insurmountable joy that can come from its often simple employ.

Sensuality seems to be increasingly a symbol of the devilry in our Society, a mini-reflection of the return of the Victorian thoughts, fears, and social Conservatism running rampant in our country today.  Strange that sensuality gets such a name while all the worlds of people seem to be reveling in trash that only proves the Social Conservatives right about the Baseness of women and lower classes. Sensuality seems to lope hand-in hand down the road with Aestheticism, and the truest old-school ideals of what being an Artist of any genera is about. I think it is mortifying to some people to sense that there could be a pure enjoyment of the world around someone, a magic that has nothing to do with Biology, Tradition, Sex, or even Love as we know it.In a strange way it seems to embody something alien or other, something that the frightened adult-children of our world cannot accept as they shiver in wait for the Future to consume us, or other Terrors to manifest in the form of people being free to make their own choices.  I think the Fear that Sensualism evokes has much to do with the raw unknown of Pleasure in general, particularly in a world that has become about clashing people’s Sexuality & Freak-Banners against ‘Mainstream Society’. The Sexuality of the Baby-Boom generations Counter Culture has streamed into this strange distillation that somehow Sexuality is a Culture, and even further more that by flying your Freak Banner, you can be your own Counter Culture. And yet to take PLEASURE in the world around you, savoring your moments, evokes a kind of darkness that we can’t face. To take pleasure in your sexuality seems to be more of a sin because it in itself is no particular statement except that maybe you for a moment, dared to enjoy your life with all 5 senses.Many Thanks to Uncle Perhaps, who also goes by the monikers : ByronicTwist, Musician : https://www.facebook.com/ByronicTwistLysander Gray : Photographer, Poet, Painter : http://raptureofdecadence.blogspot.com/& His Tumblr : http://byronictwist.tumblr.com/ Visit The Aunties :Forumspring : Ask us ANYTHING! http://www.formspring.me/TheAuntiesTumblr : http://theaunties.tumblr.com/ Like us on Facebook! https://www.facebook.com/pages/Auntie-Wicked/304415289006Twitter : http://twitter.com/#!/theauntiesOr email us at : The2Aunties@gmail.com